The Two Phases of Love

Life hits pretty hard after a break-up. You get to know about what has been going on around you, you see what you've missed all this time and you realize that it was quite a LOT! Let's talk about love today. It is a pretty deep topic if you see. Ask yourself, what is love? Something we often talk about, write about, sing about and even dance about. People say it's a feeling but what I've learned is that love is a sense of mutual understanding and commitment. If you're poor you're less likely to love someone who is poorer or is just as poor as you are. Everyone is attracted to someone better than them in the first place. Now here, I'm talking about something serious and not just a fling. People tend to get attracted to you if you're rich, beautiful, or intelligent and they'll lose interest in you if you don't have what it takes to be a compatible match. I am a practical person and I don't understand teenage love, I just don't get why people need to be committed at a young age. I loved someone for more than a year but I just don't understand what good did it do to me or anybody around me.

According to James Baldwin, "Experience is a private, very largely speechless affair". I think experiencing something makes a person stronger and harsher in life. It gives you an understanding of the society around you. I think the end of love is where hate begins, the moment you end love you create hate, a lot of hate indeed. I think I would like to share my experience about the same. So I loved someone irrespective of the views of my parents or friends, I gave up my everything for that one person but I guess I couldn't sign up my whole life for a person so soon. Now I know I could've realized it sooner but I think things weren't building up inside me at that time and when they piled up, they came out of me just as soon as they could. I think the part after the breakup was way harsher than being in that relationship, the other person did not even think once before ruining my reputation in front of his friends or mine. It was utmost hate, something I never imagined and it broke me into pieces. He defamed me to an extent where I couldn't help but cry myself to sleep, I kept worrying about what he could do next and I think I'm still scared. I won't say it was just him who did that, of course, It takes two to tango, some of the people were my friends or my mutuals who had nothing to do with the whole conversation and were just getting the gossip out of it but I wish that person could see what I could. Long story short, I'm glad I ended what I ended and I don't regret it.

I feel this generation is ruining itself and I think it starts with all the hate that is inside. I still talk to people who talk behind my back because I know to what extent are they talking but some people hate me just because of a misunderstanding and god bless their hearts. People have lost kindness, they've lost how to behave nicely. Everyone wants the best for themselves and they don't realize how mean they get at times but I sincerely hope this youth stops this deceitfulness and be more honest and practical. People need to love themselves before they go to someone else for a commitment. People have insecurities which are fine but you have to love yourself before seeking reassurance from someone. Everyone has problems but how you handle them is what matters, how you handle a breakup is all that matters. Hate gets you nowhere and you have to accept the change and move on rather than being stuck to the past and keep criticizing it.

I guess that's it for today, until next time♡